Why Remodeling is More Stressful for the Wife

Great insight from Jeff Opdyke:

So I see this experience as a lesson learned: When it comes to remodeling — and our kitchen is next — never equate your spouse's silence with acceptance. Your passion about a project may overwhelm your partner into submission.

Another really huge point brought out by Amy Opdyke is that nearly all of the “enforcement” fell on her shoulders.

Not only did she have to deal with workers in the house each day, deal with the short-notice questions of preference that came up, take innumerable trips out for small parts and whatnots, but worst of all she had to…

be the bad guy.

It's all too easy to let your wife get in that position.

I've seen it a hundred times. The husband really wants to have the rapport and respect of the contractor and the subs, and he hits it off great with them. They talk about football. He offers them a beer.

But when they don't live up to their promises, he's reluctant to confront.

So it falls on the shoulders of you-know-who.

Either partner can prevent this if they just know to expect it and deal with it proactively.